Should I Date During Divorce?
No. Going through a divorce can be very difficult. While some people may feel overwhelmed and distraught, others might feel ready to step away from the past and start anew by jumping back into the dating scene. However, dating before your divorce is finalized can have a negative impact on you and your family.
1. Dating Can Negatively Affect Settlement
Dating during divorce can add tension to your divorce and hinder the settlement process. You may be convinced that your soon to be ex-spouse doesn’t care if you date someone, but it will likely not help your divorce. Someone who is hurt and angry is less likely to compromise on even the simplest matters in a divorce. Dating can turn what you believed was going to be an amicable divorce into a litigated divorce, which will delay the finalization of your divorce. Not to mention the divorce will likely cost you thousands of dollars more than expected.
2. Dating Can Negatively Impact Your Alimony Obligation
If you are dating during your divorce, your dating life can impact the amount of alimony you are obligated to pay. Although Florida is a no-fault state, what you are spending on your dates is relevant when it comes to determining how much spousal support you should pay. For example, if your new significant other posts a photo of the two of you on social media while on a date, additional litigation could result as your spouse can look into what you have spent on your dates, couple getaways and gifts to your new significant other to show the court that you have the ability to pay your spouse more alimony. Dating during divorce can result in additional litigation in the form of depositions, subpoenas submitted for both parties’ bank records and hearings.
3. Dating Can Negatively Impact Your Custody Case
Your divorce can take a turn for the worse if you introduce your new significant other to the children, especially without the consent or knowledge of the other parent. This can also result in the children feeling uncomfortable or hurt during this difficult transition, which could negatively impact your custody case. Remember, although children are resilient, seeing you with someone else so soon after your separation can be hurtful and traumatic for them. If you do choose to introduce the children to a new significant other soon after your separation and your spouse is agreeable, it is best to seek the advice of a child psychologist during this transition.
The Law Offices of Patricia Palma has 19 years of experience in family law. If you have questions regarding divorce or family law matters, contact The Law Offices of Patricia Palma, P.A at 813-258-3211 or contact us online to schedule a meeting at our Tampa office.
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